How to Feel Less Lonely: 7 Evidence-Based Ways to Reconnection

A comprehensive guide to (re-)connecting with other people and yourself

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A few years ago, on a frosty winter night, my loneliness hit so bad that I curled up in front of my radiator. I wanted to replicate human warmth. I wanted to cry. I wanted to feel something.

But there was nothing.

My chest felt like an airlock that was accidentally opened in outer space, releasing scraps of joy into the vast emptiness. Not surprisingly, my radiator didn’t fix the problem. In fact, it sent me down a spiral of shame and self-loathing. Look at you, a voice in my mind hissed. What kind of loser are you? You don’t have any friends, no partner, no one you can hug. So you’re stuck with your heater. How embarrassing…

That night ended with me standing on a bridge, smoking a cigarette, movie noir style. And it was at this moment that I — a non-smoker — couldn’t even recognize myself anymore.

I felt numb.

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Obviously, this wasn’t the optimal approach to feeling less lonely. But looking back, I understand why I did it.